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Why Am I Always Comparing Myself to Everybody Else?

You compare yourself because you want to know how well you measure up. If you are doing well you can feel good about yourself. If you aren’t as pretty, smart, rich or gifted as the other person, then you can’t feel good about yourself.

The trouble with comparison comes from comparing yourself to the wrong measure—other people. Because every person is different, you will always find someone you think is better or worse than you are. This will leave you filled with frustration or pride.

God doesn’t want you to compare yourself based on an outward measure, but on an inward measure. Instead of asking, “Am I as good as so-and-so?” ask, “Do I have the character of Christ that God wants me to have?” That will keep your focus where it needs to be.

Taken from The Teenage Q&A Book, pg. 141

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