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How Can I Let a Guy Know I’m Interested in him Without Making a Complete Fool of Myself?

First Peter 3:3, 4 says, “And let not your adornment be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.”

These verses give three principles. First, look your best. You want to emphasize your inward beauty, but don’t neglect your outward beauty. If certain makeup or styles of clothing can enhance your beauty, take advantage of them without overdoing it. And be careful in your dressing to draw attention to your face, not your assets.

Second, reflect inner beauty. You can do this by acting out qualities such as being courteous, kind, thoughtful, appreciative, etc. Guys can respect someone they don’t love, but they will never love anyone they don’t respect.

Lastly, try writing a note with something like: “I’m glad our relationship is developing and I hope it continues.” The best way to win his attention is by becoming his friend.

Taken from The Teenage Q&A Book, pg. 140