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Does God Have Just One Person Picked Out for Me to Marry, or Does He Have Several Possibilities for Me to Choose From?

This question has as many different answers as there are people you ask.

Among the answers:

  • Things will just click.
  • You can’t stand being apart.
  • You are compatible.
  • You will feel it deep in your heart.

It doesn’t take a genius to decide which type of person you would enjoy spending the rest of your life with so, first, eliminate all non-contenders.

Then ask yourself the question: “Does God want me to marry the right person or a right person?” Some say God wants you to marry “the” right person, meaning He has one, and only one, person picked out for you to marry. Others feel that there are many people out there whom God would consider a suitable mate for you; therefore, God wants you to marry “a” right person.

To avoid the controversy and the confusion, consider this perspective: Of the rest, pick the best. Of all the contenders, pick the best one for you, then you have the best of both options. If God has only one picked out, you can be sure you got him or her. On the other hand, if there are several right ones out there, then you can be sure to get the best one possible (adapted fromĀ Love: Making It Last, pp. 123, 126).

Taken fromĀ The Teenage Q&A Book, pg. 156