Sex & Relationships

Sex & Relationships

You know the importance of saying the words “I love you” but
building a lifelong love can be so much more.

Recommended Resources

Counseling Organizations

The mission of The Allender Center is to foster redemption and healing in individuals, couples, and communities by helping them tell their stories with awareness and integrity while also training leaders and professionals to engage the stories of others with courage, artistry, and care.

Hope Redefined

Hope Redefined is a faith based ministry focused on supporting women facing sexual betrayal and offers support through online support groups, one to one coaching, an intensive healing retreat and community education. 

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Faithful & True is a Christian counseling center located in Eden Prairie, Minnesota, specializing in the treatment of sexual addiction for men, support for their spouses, and guidance for couples who have experienced relational betrayal.

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Pure Desire exists to provide hope and freedom from sexual addiction by educating and equipping church leaders in the development of a healing ministry.  Pure Desire is leading the way in the battle for integrity and purity in the church.

Family

FocusOnTheFamily

Focus on the Family: Focus on the Family is a global Christian ministry dedicated to helping families thrive. We provide help and resources for couples to build healthy marriages that reflect God’s design, and for parents to raise their children according to morals and values grounded in biblical principles.  Find help for: sexual abuse, emotional abuse, self-injury, eating disorders, substance abuse, gambling, terminally ill and troubled teens.

FamilyLife

Family Life: Family Life is committed to helping people know and apply the biblical blueprints for maintaining a God-honoring marriage and raising children to become responsible adults.  Helping couples build healthier marriages & families.

Media & Internet Safety

Discover Freedom with Accountability2You. Conquer addictions. Break bad habits. The most comprehensive accountability software tailored to your specific needs.

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Meet Circle.  Their Internet. Your rules. Kids need sleep. A safe way to browse. And the occasional break. Set guidelines around when and where your kids spend their online screen time.

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Covenant Eyes: Located in Owosso, Michigan, Covenant Eyes is the pioneer of Internet Accountability software, empowering our members to maintain their online integrity.  Aware of an ever-growing need to better equip parents, Covenant Eyes has developed a family Internet filter that restricts usage based on parental controls.

Family Online Safety Institute

Family Online Safety Institute (FOSI): The Family Online Safety Institute is an international, non-profit organization which works to make the online world safer for kids and their families. FOSI convenes leaders in industry, government and the non-profit sectors to collaborate and innovate new solutions and policies in the field of online safety. Through research, resources, events and special projects, FOSI promotes a culture of responsibility online and encourages a sense of digital citizenship for all.

Enough is Enough

Enough is Enough: Enough Is Enough®; (EIE), a non-partisan, 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, emerged in 1994 as the national leader on the front lines to make the Internet safer for children and families. Since then, EIE has pioneered efforts to confront online pornography, child pornography, child stalking, sexual predation, and other forms of online victimization. By leveraging its expertise, growing national partnership network, and positive reputation among the public, media, law enforcement, and Internet industry, EIE continues to advance innovative initiatives and effective communication strategies to protect children online.

rTribe helps everyone and anyone heal. Yet the most under-served and isolated communities are where we help people connect the most: people struggling with unhealthy sexuality, addiction, relationship issues, and faith-based communities.

With Qustodio, keep your kids’ device use safe, productive and fun. Qustodio provides concerned parents smart tools to help supervise kids online. Designed to solve parents’ concerns, Qustodio helps parents block inappropriate content, balance screen time, and control games and apps

The Porn Phenomenon

The Porn Phenomenon: The Christian community can no longer ignore pornography’s effects on the hearts and minds of the next generation. This Barna Group research of the cultural place of pornography today will provide you with: statistics, research, insights, and much more! BUY NOW

I was a public school teacher and a porn addict.

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“I was a public school teacher and a porn addict for years. The turning point came when I was arrested 9 months ago, an event I describe in the following article. Now I want to out the internet sex industry, especially as it affects children and teenagers. So I wrote this piece and sending it anyone who might be able to use it.”

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Sexuality, Pornography & Sex Addiction

The mission of The Allender Center is to foster redemption and healing in individuals, couples, and communities by helping them tell their stories with awareness and integrity while also training leaders and professionals to engage the stories of others with courage, artistry, and care.

DirtyGirlsMinistries

Dirty Girls Ministries: Dirty Girls Ministries (DGM) is a 501c3 non-profit ministry providing women with help, hope and healing from pornography and sexual addiction. Founded by author and speaker Crystal Renaud in February of 2009, the mission of DGM is to break through the stigma that surrounds female porn & sexual addiction by creating safe spaces for women to find help, hope and healing. And to train up others to do the same.

FightTheNewDrug

Fight the New Drug: Fight the New Drug takes a non-religious, non-legislative, non-judgmental approach. They recognize an individual’s right to view and produce pornography, however, once they are educated on the harmful effects of pornography we believe they will choose to avoid it. Fight the New Drug only wishes to educate about the negative effects of pornography on individuals, families, and communities.

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Faithful & True is a Christian counseling center located in Eden Prairie, Minnesota, specializing in the treatment of sexual addiction for men, support for their spouses, and guidance for couples who have experienced relational betrayal.

ProtectYoungMinds

Protect Young Minds: provides practical tools, free guides and on-going support to help parents and professionals “porn-proof” their young kids. Good Pictures Bad Pictures is a best-selling, comfortable, read-aloud story about a mom and dad who teach their child what pornography is, why it’s dangerous, and how to reject it.

PureDesire

Pure Desire Ministries: At Pure Desire, the aim is to educate and mobilize church leaders to facilitate hope and freedom from sexual addiction, through the development of healing ministries. Read Brett’s story

StraightTalk

Straight Talk with Your Kids About Sex

Find encouragement and solid information in the sometimes-awkward process of guiding your child into a healthy understanding of God’s gift of sex.

Bonus chapters here: Josh.org/straighttalk

Brushfires

Brushfires: Helping people discover and live out God’s design for sexuality and relationships, and equipping transformed people to spark change by serving others.

Relativity

Relativity: Relativity, a premiere national outpatient sexual addiction and non-violent sexual offender treatment agency, provides confidential, ethical and effective clinical programs that encourage healthy sexuality, relationship intimacy and personal integrity.

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The Freedom Fight offers one of the most impactful and thorough courses I have seen when it comes to helping people find freedom from porn and sex addiction. The course does a great job of integrating principles for addiction recovery from neuroscience, Biblical wisdom and psychology.

Relativity

Relativity: Relativity, a premiere national outpatient sexual addiction and non-violent sexual offender treatment agency, provides confidential, ethical and effective clinical programs that encourage healthy sexuality, relationship intimacy and personal integrity.

Brushfires

Brushfires: Helping people discover and live out God’s design for sexuality and relationships, and equipping transformed people to spark change by serving others.

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pureHOPE: pureHOPE’s vision is a world free of sexual exploitation and brokenness, and we work toward that through our mission of providing Christian solutions in a sexualized culture. In short, this ministry equips individuals, families, and churches to pursue sexual purity and oppose sexual exploitation.

YourBrainOnPorn

Your Brain on Porn: This site focuses on porn’s effects on the brain—male or female. This site will help you understand exactly how today’s extreme Internet porn alters your brain. Armed with that knowledge, you’ll realize that some primitive circuitry in your brain is just trying to do its job. And you’ll see how to outsmart it and restore your balance.

LIFE Recovery

L.I.F.E. Recovery: L.I.F.E. Recovery International has helped free God’s people from sexual addiction since 2000, using their proven resources and model for addiction recovery. Resources are available in English and Spanish. And a directory of support groups are available on their website.

Beggar's Daughter

Beggar’s Daughter: A ministry dedicated to walking with women who have an addiction to pornography.

NationalCenterOnSexualExploitation

The National Center on Sexual Exploitation: (NCOSE) is the leading national organization exposing the links between all forms of sexual exploitation such as child sexual abuse, prostitution, sex trafficking and the public health crisis of pornography. As the thread of pornography in the web of sexual exploitation is systemically overlooked by society, the National Center on Sexual Exploitation has prominently advanced this issue as a central pillar of its projects in order to promote more holistic solutions.

Sex Abuse

Sexual Abuse – It’s More Common Than You Think

It is esti­mated that a child is molested in this country every two minutes. Approximately one out of every four women and one out of every eleven men have been sexually abused. Despite what you see on TV, about 75% of victims know their abuser.

And although extreme violence can happen, it is unusual. The sexual abuse of children and adolescents may be invisible to many, but victims of abuse know the pain, shame and guilt it brings. Let’s make sure we understand the term: sexual abuse of a child is any form of sexual activity or talk in which an adult seeks sexual gratification from a child. To be more specific, you have been sexually abused if any of the following have happened to you as a child or adolescent:

  • Someone showed you or touched his or her genitals.
  • Someone made you show or touch your genitals.
  • Someone asked you to undress in order to look at you or fondle you (touch you sexually).
  • Someone contacted your genitals with his or her mouth or made you contact his or her genitals with your mouth.
  • Someone forced you to masturbate or to watch as he or she masturbated.
  • Someone penetrated your anus or vagina with fingers, penis or another object.
  • Someone made you perform intercourse with him or her.
  • Someone made you watch or participate in pornographic activities.

God hates sexual abuse. He created sex to be an act of mutual love between a husband and wife (see Gen. 2:24; Heb. 13:4). Any sexual activity outside this boundary is a violation of His will and design. This certainly includes an adult using a child for sexual gratification, as “innocent” as some adults may try to make their wrong behavior appear. Sexual abuse disrupts your normal process of emotional, social and sexual maturity. Sexual abuse confuses you about the meaning of true human love and God’s love. If you are the victim of some kind of sexual abuse, you have been wounded emotionally and possibly physically by a selfish adult.

You’re not alone! There is help!

For adults of abuse – The Allender Center
For children of abuse – nationalcac.org/ and

Josh McDowell’s story is one of of hope, forgiveness and abundant grace.

Growing up in a dysfunctional family with an alcoholic and violent father, and a sexually abusive caregiver, left him with a lifetime of scars but, Josh’s life changed dramatically as he experienced the power of God’s love.

Josh’s story

The Sad Reality of Sexual Abuse 
by Walt Mueller

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Recommended Resources

Voice Today: Breaking the silence and cycle of child sexual abuse and exploitation through awareness, prevention and healing.

SharedHope.org: rescues and restores women and children enslaved in sex trafficking.

Download articles for free. Ben Bennett’s articles on Guide to Understanding Sexual Addiction and Porn and the Great Commission.

Purchase Living Free on our store to find help discovering the sources of past pain and find freedom and healing through Jesus.

Terrible Things Happened To Me

Tom Scales shares the initimate details of his life in the hopes that all children will be protected and adult survivors will join him on the path of healing.

Exodus Cry is built on a foundation of prayer and is committed to abolishing sex slavery through Christ-centered prevention, intervention, and holistic restoration of trafficking victims.

When A Man You Love Was Abused

For all women who know and love a survivor of sexual assault, best-selling author Cecil Murphey has penned an honest and forthright book about helping the man in your life survive–and thrive–despite past abuses.

On the Threshold of Hope 

This book offers hope and healing to men and women who have been traumatized by sexual abuse. Dr. Langberg’s insights and the quotations from many survivors assure readers that they are not alone and that Christ, the Redeemer, can heal their deep wounds. Through stories, Scripture, questions, and encouragement, Dr. Langberg walks with survivors on the road to healing through Christ’s love and power. (AACC Counseling Library)

The Wounded Heart

This book by Dan B. Allender addresses issues of sexual abuse across social, religious, and gender lines. He provides a Biblically-based path for survivors to find healing and restoration through God’s help, love, and mercy.

Core Healing from Sexual Abuse: A Journey of Hope

This workbook by Marti Wibbles addresses this pandemic head on, offering survivors of sexual abuse an opportunity to heal and transform their lives.  Core Healing seeks to resolve root issues fueling anxiety, depression, insecurity or fear, while illuminating solutions. (Also available in Spanish: Sanidad del Nucleo del Abuso Sexual: Un Vaije de Esperanza)

Dealing With Past Sexual Abuse

An article by Dan Allender (FamilyLife)
Bringing up the memories is the first step in fighting the battle.

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