Sex & Relationships

Recommended Resources

Counseling Organizations

AACC

American Association of Christian Counselors: AACC is committed to assisting Christian counselors, the entire ‘community of care,’ licensed professionals, pastors, and lay church members with little or no formal training with biblical truth and psychosocial insights that minister to hurting persons and helps them move to personal wholeness, interpersonal competence, mental stability, and spiritual maturity.

Screen-Shot-2012-12-12-at-4.13.46-PMAssociation of Biblical Counselors: ABC exists to encourage, equip, and empower people everywhere to live and counsel the Word, applying the Gospel to the whole experience of life.

BBCBiblical Counseling Coalition: The BCC exists to strengthen churches, para-church organizations, and educational institutions by promoting excellence and unity in biblical counseling as a means to accomplish compassionate outreach and effective discipleship.

CR-300x53Celebrate Recovery: Celebrate Recovery is a program designed to help those struggling with hurts, hang-ups, and habits by showing them the loving power of Jesus Christ through the recovery process. Find a group near you.

CCEFChristian Counseling & Educational Foundation: CCEF teaches people how to explore the wisdom and depth of the Bible and apply its grace-centered message to the problems of daily living. Simply put their mission is to: Restore Christ to Counseling and Counseling to the Church.

RickThomas_logoRickThomas.NetHelping people by providing practical tools and ongoing training for more effective living.

logo-ficmFreedom in Christ Ministries: The mission of FICM-USA is to resource and equip Christians in America to experience spiritual freedom and spread that freedom to others.

HOPE-FOR-THE-HEARTHope for the Heart: Hope for the Heart is a worldwide ministry with a two-fold mission: providing Bible-based counsel to renew minds, heal hearts, and bring hope to the hurting, while empowering Christians to disciple others.

newlifelogoNew Life Ministries: New Life Ministries seeks to transform lives through God’s truth by reaching out compassionately to those who seek healing and restoration.

NEW-LIFE-SPIRIT-RECOVERY-300x119New Life Spirit Recovery: To educate, equip, treat and deliver Christ-centered solution to struggling addicts and alcoholics and their family members. To take our message and testimony of freedom from addiction through Jesus Christ to the community, church and beyond.

Family

DFR-e1355758215944Doing Family RightA non-profit entity with charitable status in both Canada and the USA. DFR exists to help people improve their most important relationships in life in a God-honoring way.

FAMILY-LIFEFamily Life: Family Life is committed to helping people know and apply the biblical blueprints for maintaining a God-honoring marriage and raising children to become responsible adults.  Helping couples build healthier marriages & families.

FOCUS-ON-THE-FAMILYjpgFocus on the Family: Focus on the Family is a global Christian ministry dedicated to helping families thrive. We provide help and resources for couples to build healthy marriages that reflect God’s design, and for parents to raise their children according to morals and values grounded in biblical principles.  Find help for: sexual abuse, emotional abuse, self-injury, eating disorders, substance abuse, gambling, terminally ill and troubled teens.

ncflogo-lgNational Center for FatheringThe National Center for Fathering (Fathers.com) is a nonprofit educational organization that provides research-based training and resources so that men are equipped to address their children’s needs. Their goal is to reverse the cultural trend toward fatherlessness by helping every dad learn how to be a father.

newlife-150x150New Life Ministries: serves the emotional, spiritual, and physical needs of thousands across the nation and worldwide. Ministries includes WeDared.com, New Life TV and Every Man’s Battle.

smlogoMan Up: The ManUp Leadership app is an environment on your mobile device that will enable you to learn, grow, be challenged, confess, and solve problems together with other men while also engaging in adventure – all inside one mobile environment. The app is also anonymous so you can feel comfortable sharing and receiving information without worrying about guarding your privacy.

NATIONAL-FATHERHOOD-INIT-National Fatherhood Initiative: National Fatherhood Initiative’s Mission: To improve the well-being of children by increasing the proportion of children growing up with involved, responsible, and committed fathers. We strive to ensure a brighter future for America’s youth.  By equipping and educating fathers, we’re working on an issue that is at the core of our nation’s well-being.

Art-of-MarriageThe Art of MarriageThe Art of Marriage Event is a video experience designed for church and community settings.  The Art of Marriage Event consists of six video sessions typically held on a Friday night and Saturday.  These videos combine dramatic stories, real-life testimonies, expert interviews, humorous vignettes and other teaching methods to lay out God’s design for marriage in a fresh, engaging way.  Guests attending the event are each provided a manual with projects to help them apply the principles taught in each session, augmented by dozens of articles and additional content to help them dive deeper.

everymaniconEvery Man Ministries: With a mission to create a movement of God’s men who are empowered to lead others on a meaningful journey into personal character and leadership, ultimately having a positive impact on generations of women, children and families.

Media & Internet Safety

COVENANT-EYESCovenant Eyes is the pioneer of Internet Accountability software, empowering our members to maintain their online integrity.  Aware of an ever-growing need to better equip parents, Covenant Eyes has developed a family Internet filter that restricts usage based on parental controls.

set-free-global-summit-logoInternet pornography secretly damages every church in America. Learn what it’s doing to your church—and proven strategies to dealing with it. Visit Set Free Summit 2016 to learn more.

Enough is Enough: Enough Is Enough®; (EIE), a non-partisan, 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, emerged in 1994 as the national leader on the front lines to make the Internet safer for children and families. Since then, EIE has pioneered efforts to confront online pornography, child pornography, child stalking, sexual predation, and other forms of online victimization. By leveraging its expertise, growing national partnership network, and positive reputation among the public, media, law enforcement, and Internet industry, EIE continues to advance innovative initiatives and effective communication strategies to protect children online.

Family Online Safety Institute (FOSI): The Family Online Safety Institute is an international, non-profit organization which works to make the online world safer for kids and their families. FOSI convenes leaders in industry, government and the non-profit sectors to collaborate and innovate new solutions and policies in the field of online safety. Through research, resources, events and special projects, FOSI promotes a culture of responsibility online and encourages a sense of digital citizenship for all. Download Broadband Responsibility: A Blueprint for Safe & Responsible Online Use

K9 Web Protection: Free, enterprise-class security software designed for home computers. K9 delivers the comprehensive protection you need automatically. With K9, you get the same advanced Web filtering technology used by enterprise and government institutions worldwide — all with a user-friendly interface that allows you to control Internet use in your home.

Media Talk 101: Media Talk 101 was started in December of 2005 by Phillip Telfer with the goal of teaching media discernment to youth and families.

Net Nanny: Net Nanny protects families and helps them manage their experiences with digital content. Parents, spouses, guardians, and educators are given visibility and control in managing a child’s online experience.

PornProof Kids: This internet ministry is the work of Kristen Jenson, mother of three children. Her desire is to help parents inoculate their young children against the destructive and potentially addictive dangers of internet pornography. How? By making it OK to talk about pornography and explaining a little brain science in the process.

Saavi Accountability: Saavi Accountability is the most effective approach for individuals or parents to hold themselves or their family members accountable. Saavi Accountability is an Instant Online Accountability Program that lets you set the standards for your home, and then enables parents or accountability partners to receive instant text message and or instant email notifications anytime your personal standards have been violated.

Safe Eyes: Safe Eyes is Mac, PC, and iOS compatible software that protects your family from harmful content and other dangers on the internet.

X3 Watch: X3watch is a free accountability software program helping with online integrity. Whenever you access a website that contains inappropriate or pornographic material, the program will record the website, time, and date the site was visited. A person of your choice (an accountability partner) will receive an email containing all inappropriate sites you have visited that week.o.

I Wonder If You’ve Seen Your Daughter Naked on the Web, because I Think Others Might Have “I was a public school teacher and a porn addict for years. The turning point came when I was arrested 9 months ago, an event I describe in the following article. Now I want to out the internet sex industry, especially as it affects children and teenagers. So I wrote this piece and sending it anyone who might be able to use it.”

Sexuality, Pornography & Sex Addiction

Dirty Girls Ministries: Dirty Girls Ministries (DGM) is a 501c3 non-profit ministry providing women with help, hope and healing from pornography and sexual addiction. Founded by author and speaker Crystal Renaud in February of 2009, the mission of DGM is to break through the stigma that surrounds female porn & sexual addiction by creating safe spaces for women to find help, hope and healing. And to train up others to do the same.

Pure Desire Ministries: At Pure Desire, the aim is to educate and mobilize church leaders to facilitate hope and freedom from sexual addiction, through the development of healing ministries. Read Brett’s story

Fight the New Drug: Fight the New Drug takes a non-religious, non-legislative, non-judgmental approach. They recognize an individual’s right to view and produce pornography, however, once they are educated on the harmful effects of pornography we believe they will choose to avoid it. Fight the New Drug only wishes to educate about the negative effects of pornography on individuals, families, and communities.

Protect Young Minds: provides practical tools, free guides and on-going support to help parents and professionals “porn-proof” their young kids. Good Pictures Bad Pictures is a best-selling, comfortable, read-aloud story about a mom and dad who teach their child what pornography is, why it’s dangerous, and how to reject it.

Porn Harms: Founded in 1962, Morality In Media (MIM) is the leading national organization opposing pornography and indecency through public education and the application of the law.

pureHOPE: pureHOPE’s vision is a world free of sexual exploitation and brokenness, and we work toward that through our mission of providing Christian solutions in a sexualized culture. In short, this ministry equips individuals, families, and churches to pursue sexual purity and oppose sexual exploitation.

Freed by Truth: Freed By Truth’s mission is to address the need for pornography awareness, which has become a culprit in causing millions to be addicted and living without hope for the future and a way out from its grips.

Sexual Recovery Institute: The Sexual Recovery Institute (SRI), a premiere national outpatient sexual addiction and non-violent sexual offender treatment agency, provides confidential, ethical and effective clinical programs that encourage healthy sexuality, relationship intimacy and personal integrity.

She’s Somebody’s Daughter: She’s Somebody’s Daughter is a non-profit organization led by executive director Tammy Stauffer, and is comprised of volunteers, concerned citizens, business leaders, churches, and partner ministries who care about the effects that sexual exploitation is having on women, men, and children. They are creating a model of what it means to “be a community that reaches communities” – building a support network – to honor women and address sexual exploitation.

The Porn Effect: The Porn Effect has been established to expose the reality of porn for what it is; a weak and whimpering counterfeit of love which is emasculating men, degrading women and destroying marriages. We are an online community which offers support and encouragement to those affected by sexual sin. They speak internationally to men and women about the beauty of sex, the problem of porn and the healing which is possible.

We Dared is to help men to act in a way that is counter-cultural and provide a plan that helps them fight back, showing the world that as Christian men, we are different.  We want to help men live with sexual integrity every day, and the 30-day challenge is the first step.

XXXchurch: XXXchurch, the largest site online and the most recognized voice on the planet on the issue of pornography, is your resource online to fight porn addiction. XXXchurch uses the web, social media and news media to tell a story often left untold and is committed to help men and women conquer sexual issues like pornography addiction and sex addiction and regain control of their lives.

Your Brain on Porn: This site focuses on porn’s effects on the brain—male or female. This site will help you understand exactly how today’s extreme Internet porn alters your brain. Armed with that knowledge, you’ll realize that some primitive circuitry in your brain is just trying to do its job. And you’ll see how to outsmart it and restore your balance.

Pure Life: Pure Life serves Christian individuals and organizations dealing with sexual sin by providing biblically based counseling, teaching materials and a public speaking ministry with the goal of leading Christians to victory over sexual sin and into a deeper life in God.

Brushfires: Helping people discover and live out God’’s design for sexuality and relationships, and equipping transformed people to spark change by serving others.

L.I.F.E. Recovery: L.I.F.E. Recovery International has helped free God’s people from sexual addiction since 2000, using their proven resources and model for addiction recovery. Resources are available in English and Spanish. And a directory of support groups are available on their website.

Pure Intimacy: Pure Intimacy is an online ministry of Focus of the Family devoted to the biblical truth that human sexuality flows from the image of God that we bear as male and female and is a good gift from God. The goal at Pure Intimacy is to present to others the healing and transformation found in Jesus Christ.

Pure Life: Pure Life serves Christian individuals and organizations dealing with sexual sin by providing biblically based counseling, teaching materials and a public speaking ministry with the goal of leading Christians to victory over sexual sin and into a deeper life in God.

Sexual Wholeness: Sexual Wholeness, Inc. is a non-profit organization dedicated to training Christian therapists and ministry leaders to unveil God’s truth about sexuality and bring healing. In the midst of distorted values, unfulfilling marriages and confused single adults, we believe that God has a sexual plan that promotes integrity, maturity, and passionate intimacy. We desire to partner in cultivating a sexually healthy Church through articles, books, research, networking, workshops and classes that are tailored to specific populations and needs.

Beggar’s Daughter: A ministry dedicated to walking with women who have an addiction to pornography.

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Straight Talk with Your Kids About Sex

Find encouragement and solid information in the sometimes-awkward process of guiding your child into a healthy understanding of God’s gift of sex.

Bonus chapters here: Josh.org/straighttalk

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Sex Abuse

Sexual Abuse – It’s More Common Than You Think

“The Sad Reality of Sexual Abuse” by Walt Mueller (Download PDF)

It is esti­mated that a child is molested in this country every two minutes. Approximately one out of every four women and one out of every eleven men have been sexually abused. Despite what you see on TV, about 75% of victims know their abuser.

And although extreme violence can happen, it is unusual. The sexual abuse of children and adolescents may be invisible to many, but victims of abuse know the pain, shame and guilt it brings. Let’s make sure we understand the term: sexual abuse of a child is any form of sexual activity or talk in which an adult seeks sexual gratification from a child. To be more specific, you have been sexually abused if any of the following have happened to you as a child or adolescent:

  • An adult showed you or touched his or her genitals.
  • An adult made you show or touch your genitals.
  • An adult asked you to undress in order to look at you or fondle you (touch you sexually).
  • An adult contacted your genitals with his or her mouth or made you contact his or her genitals with your mouth.
  • An adult forced you to masturbate or to watch as he or she masturbated.
  • An adult penetrated your anus or vagina with fingers, penis or another object.
  • An adult made you perform intercourse with him or her.
  • An adult made you watch or participate in pornographic activities.

God hates sexual abuse. He created sex to be an act of mutual love between a husband and wife (see Gen. 2:24; Heb. 13:4). Any sexual activity outside this boundary is a violation of His will and design. This certainly includes an adult using a child for sexual gratification, as “innocent” as some adults may try to make their wrong behavior appear. Sexual abuse disrupts your normal process of emotional, social and sexual maturity. Sexual abuse confuses you about the meaning of true human love and God’s love. If you are the victim of some kind of sexual abuse, you have been wounded emotionally and possibly physically by a selfish adult

You’re not alone! There is help!

Voice Today: Breaking the silence and cycle of child sexual abuse and exploitation through awareness, prevention and healing.

Exodus Cry is built on a foundation of prayer and is committed to abolishing sex slavery through Christ-centered prevention, intervention, and holistic restoration of trafficking victims.

SharedHope.org: rescues and restores women and children enslaved in sex trafficking.

Terrible Things Happened To Me

Tom Scales shares the initimate details of his life in the hopes that all children will be protected and adult survivors will join him on the path of healing.

When A Man You Love Was Abused

For all women who know and love a survivor of sexual assault, best-selling author Cecil Murphey has penned an honest and forthright book about helping the man in your life survive–and thrive–despite past abuses.

On the Threshold of Hope 

This book offers hope and healing to men and women who have been traumatized by sexual abuse. Dr. Langberg’s insights and the quotations from many survivors assure readers that they are not alone and that Christ, the Redeemer, can heal their deep wounds. Through stories, Scripture, questions, and encouragement, Dr. Langberg walks with survivors on the road to healing through Christ’s love and power. (AACC Counseling Library)

The Wounded Heart

This book by Dan B. Allender addresses issues of sexual abuse across social, religious, and gender lines. He provides a Biblically-based path for survivors to find healing and restoration through God’s help, love, and mercy.

Core Healing from Sexual Abuse: A Journey of Hope

This workbook by Marti Wibbles addresses this pandemic head on, offering survivors of sexual abuse an opportunity to heal and transform their lives.  Core Healing seeks to resolve root issues fueling anxiety, depression, insecurity or fear, while illuminating solutions. (Also available in Spanish: Sanidad del Nucleo del Abuso Sexual: Un Vaije de Esperanza)

Dealing With Past Sexual Abuse

An article by Dan Allender (FamilyLife)
Bringing up the memories is the first step in fighting the battle.