How to Break Out of Loneliness


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Bible Reading: Colossians 3:12-15

You must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Colossians 3:12

LOADS OF STUDENTS figure loneliness is a lifetime sentence. They have decided they’ll never have any real friends or they don’t deserve for someone to like them. But that’s not true.

You don’t have be trapped in a friendless prison cell of boredom, loneliness, and depression. You can break out into a world of rich, close friendships. But busting loose takes personal honesty and seven sometimes-scary steps toward better friendships:

  1. Take an honest look at your life. Be truthful-but not negative-about your social weaknesses. Recognize where you need to grow, then set realistic goals to make progress in those areas.
  2. Find someone who can mentor you. A mentor is usually someone older who can show you the way. You can get unbiased feedback on your strengths and weaknesses-feedback offered in a kind, helpful way. A mentor can give you ideas about how to be a better friend.
  3. Have realistic expectations. Some people keep trying to break into the popu­lar crowd to bolster their own self-image. In the end, that crowd usually rejects them, which just feeds the defeat cycle. Make up your mind: Do you want a friend or a status symbol?
  4. Take a long-term approach. Changes don’t often occur quickly. Instead, small steps may take place over a longer time. A mentor can suggest some small, specific steps that will start you on the road to worthwhile friendships.
  5. Watch your attitude. Attitudes determine actions. Guard against thinking things like, ”I’m a jerk,” “No one likes me,” or ”I’ll never have any friends.” If you treat yourself in a friendly way, you’re more likely to present yourself in a positive way to others.
  6. Focus on being a friend, not on getting a friend. You will find greater success and less loneliness when you focus on befriending others instead of trying to convince others to like you. Make it your goal to be a good listener, encour­age others to talk about themselves, and show you care when others feel down.
  7. Cultivate a quality relationship with Jesus Christ. The more you experience friendship with Jesus, the more relaxed you will be with others. A great friendship with him opens the door to great friendships with others.

REFLECTHow are you doing in your search for friends? What needs to change?

PRAYShare with Jesus your desire to be the kind of friend to others that he has been to you.


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